by Dina Perkins
Whether it’s drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, porn, shopping, or something else that runs your life to the level of serious compulsion, there’s a way out that is not just a release, but a victory.
How do we gain victory over obstacles in our lives, such as an addiction, that seem to be tearing us to pieces and controlling our lives as if we were attached to ‘it’ with a ball and chain? So, today I want to discuss victory and the matter of fact way you
- What is Victory?
- Is victory still possible to achieve even when the darkest hour has come?
- Why do you need a recovery or addictions ‘coach’?
- Are there steps to follow to become victorious over addiction and be free?
- Can you successfully do this alone or do you need help? What kind of help?
- What actions to you need to take for achieving victory?
Victory, in it’s basic generic sense, is obtaining authority over something we thought had an inescapable and relentless hold on us. It’s freedom that we want to celebrate. When we formulate the mindset of submission, we’re done and victory won’t likely be ours to own. Never submit to addiction. Work on your thoughts to change and never give up until it’s accomplished. We don’t fail unless with die in an addiction. Then we have given the addiction permission to rule over us.
I personally believe that we can achieve victory as long as we’re still breathing and have the desire and self respect to change. My focus, however, in my life and ministry is in addiction. It’s during our darkest hour when we fight the hardest. When we fight hard, we win. It’s when we are cornered that we fight to the death. That’s why people say that those in addiction have to hit rock bottom in order to be able to see the need to get clean.
Now we come to the question of whether or not we need a life coach. I believe that EVERYONE needs a life coach! I guess I’m a bit biased because I am a coach… a recovery coach, a leadership coach and a marriage educator/coach; however, the reason for my bias is that human nature tells us that unless we figure it out for ourselves, we’re not inspired to make the proper changes in our lives. Coaching is a trained individual who, through a skilled set of probing questions, leads their client to the proper direction for their life. It is not someone who gives advice or counsels; it’s someone who ‘leads the horse to water’. It’s just plain fact that if you tell someone, ‘don’t’, they will and if you tell someone, ‘do’, they won’t; so we never want to direct another’s life. Not only do I believe that every person on earth should contract with a life coach, I believe that we all need the Life Coach of all life coaches – Jesus Christ Himself. If you know your Bible, you know that Jesus never told anyone what to do, He just gently told of His ways in parables, analogies and laws. God is a gentleman and forces no one to follow Him; however, He causes us to fall in love with Him.
Now for the steps or phases for your path to victory. Could there be an actual outline of things to do in order to win victory over substance abuse – or anything else in life? Yes there is a protocol. My protocol applies in a general sense to any challenge that you are wrestling with. Here goes...
- Observe. Tune up your observational skills. Do an assessment as to what is happening to you by rewinding to the beginning of this ‘problem’ and think about how you got into this situation in the first place and reasons why you feel you started. As an example, ask yourself why you started taking drugs or why you started to drink. Take yourself back to that very moment when you took that first pill… shot Heroin for the first time… did your first line of cocaine… shopped till you dropped… gambled it all away at a casino or won a boatload of money… etc. What problem did these substances or activities seem to solve in those first moments that caused you to do it again and continue – even though you knew you shouldn’t.
- Analyze. Do some self-analysis and ask yourself, what results am I not getting now that I did get in the beginning? Why am I continuing in this addiction if it’s not solving anything in my life, but it’s making me sick? Knowing that drugs and alcohol cause organ damage and death, and other addictions cause the loss of money, self worth and family, what the heck is causing me to still continue?
- Ask. Ask the opinions of those close to you. Why not ask your close friends and loved ones to be raw and real with you about what kinds of change they have seen in you over the last few years that they are disappointed in you about and wish was different.
- Imagine. Close your eyes and imagine your life FREE from the bondage of your addiction. God gave us a mind with the ability to imagine… to attain things we have yet accomplished… to see things that don’t yet exist. Now that I have you sitting (or laying down on your favorite comfy sofa or chair), how does it feel to have no compulsion to count those pills… chase the next high… gamble away your savings… spend all of your monthly budget shopping for ‘stuff’… drinking yourself into oblivion… stuffing your face on junk until you can’t take a breath? I ask you again… how does it feel? What do you see yourself spending time doing once you’re free? What are friends and loved ones saying to you?
- Your Future. If you were to get FREE of your addiction, what might you want to be doing 2 years from now that you couldn’t even imagine doing while you are in your addiction? Right now, your every waking hour is devoted to your addiction. If you’re not actually needing to get high, get drunk or partake in the other addictions mentioned here, what would you love to be doing with your time?
- Take Action! If you have been encouraged and inspired by honestly responding to these past 5 questions and thoughts, do something, and do it today. At the end of each day of any addiction, there is loss. For those in chemical addictions, that loss is the loss of your health and, eventually, your life. For non-chemical addictions, the loss is that of family, dignity and money. For those in non-chemical addictions, there are support groups and life coaches to help you return to normalcy. For those involved in chemical addictions – Rx drug addiction, illegal drugs and alcohol – make arrangements for medical detox which is accomplished through a medically supervised detox center or in a hospital detox unit or mental health unit. Once you are fully detoxed, it’s time for 3-4 months of one on one specialized Bible based life coaching. Addiction is NOT a disease and no one should have to be navigating any 12 Step programs that have a success rate of less than 1%. Congrats, and kudos, if you’re among that one percent; however , statistics have shown that people do better if they go it alone than if they take part in any 12 Step group. In my opinion, the ‘Steppers’ exude pure heresy and are a disgrace to God. Plain and simple, addiction is sin. Jesus came to die for your sins and take them away from you. If He sacrificed Himself for your sins, He certainly can heal you completely for your entire lifetime.
- Freedom! Live Life like you’ve never lived before! You are now released from bondage; you are FREE. Take time to smell those magnificent roses. Enjoy your hope and your future. You can now do ANYTHING you want to do!, So, go ahead and do it. Live!
Healing begins with thought! Thought leads to words. Words lead to actionable steps that cause change. Change causes you to live a new, healthier, addiction free life. That addiction free life repairs our broken relationship with Jesus Christ and you can now forward to eternity in Heaven.
So, who’s this Jesus? Why do I need Him? What’s He got to do with my life and my healing?
If you haven’t heard, Jesus is one and only Son of the Living God. He came to earth as a baby who was 100% man and 100% God. He grew up as a humble man who preached the message of righteousness and salvation. He is the Messiah. He’s not a fairy tale character… history itself has documented accounts of His birth, ministry , cruel death an resurrection. His presence here on earth is irrefutable. He came here to die on the cross as the sacrificial Lamb on the Passover. Up until He willingly died on that cross, animals had to be sacrificed for the forgiveness of sin. Once Jesus was savagely beaten and crucified for YOU, it was finished… no more animal sacrifices needed to be done. He took you sins upon Himelf, as well as all the sins of the world, and upon receiving Him, you are joined with Him for all eternity in Heaven. If you don’t receive Him of your free will, you will enter an eternity in Hell. That’s doesn’t sound like a loving and compassionate God, you say? Well, I disagree. He DIED for YOU so that you would NOT have to go to Hell… a place designed for Satan and the fallen angels. Would YOU die for someone so that they could live? Only God could do that. I’d say that is a God so loving… so compassionate… so caring… that it blows my mind.
How do you become part of eternity in Heaven, where there will be no more sorrow, no more pain, no more tears and no more death? It’s a FREE GIFT and pretty easy. The scripture says,
“That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed. For there is no difference between the Jew and the Gentile: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:9-13)
In a prayer, you only have to confess to God that you believe He is God… that He died for your sins… and that you will live the rest of your life serving Him in righteousness. Then, you need to read your Bible so that you know how to live a righteous life that is pleasing to God – not yourself. Fellowship with other Spirit filled born again believers – in a home fellowship or a Spirit filled non-denominational church that preaches Jesus for Salvation. Stay on the ‘straight and narrow’ by getting yourself out of the way and becoming more like Him. God will transform you as long as you obey Him. You life will be a new birth… a new second chance… a new peace that you have never experienced before. Change will happen. You will be born again, as the Bible speaks of. If you need help in understanding more about true Salvation and the only way to Heaven (according to the Holy Bible), please contact me. I would be happy to answer any of your questions and/or pray with you.
If you are struggling with an addiction, Jesus will take it from you and you will be FREE for life!